A common thought is that people get stuck in self-defeating mind sets along with self-defeating emotions and feelings. We can get to such a low point where we don't even see our own strengths, resources, and support systems available to us. This could be an area where many of us could attempt to change our focus from self-defeating, negative thoughts to personal strengths that we've forgotten to see in ourselves. Another common issue is acceptance. Many of us try to hide, ignore, push away, avoid, deny, and fight-against our problems. Some believe that it is just sometimes easier to deal with problems if you try not to think about them or push them to the side. However, this can be exhausting and may lead to suffering over a longer period of time. It is thought that when we resist, fight-against, and deny problems, we become fossilized, frozen, and stuck; in this state, change is not possible because we don't openly recognize and acknowledge that there is a problem. This concept suggests that only when we truly accept a problem, change is possible. Choosing to accept our problems can be a positive decision that gives us a clearer view of reality and facilitates feelings of relief, freedom, and lightness; it also frees up a lot of psychological energy, as avoidance can be mentally straining.
The difficult part is that it's not as simple as telling yourself "I accept this problem," because some things are truly difficult to accept and believe. Furthermore, this idea of acceptance may help some people, while it may not work for others. However, if you find yourself feeling stuck, low, or overwhelmed, you many want to speak with your physician or counselor to help you take steps towards making a positive change.
Information Source:
University of British Columbia- CNPS 362 Course Notes
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